Hi Blogger!
As I write about the topics that came up today on the MitM call, my first inclination is to say:
"Ugh! If I want to piddle in the barn, LET ME! It makes me happy."
But on the other hand, I can recall occasions where my habits contributed to resentment around my lack of free time or time to engage in tasks that are important to my business.
And that leads me to a forked road of considerations, all of which we touched on in the call:
- Am I wasting time in the barn in order to regulate my nervous system?
- Am I failing to institute professional standards that would protect my time and energy?
- Am I unclear about what I REALLY want that contributes to an enjoyable, balanced life?
I'd love to hear from you if this resonates. (Just hit reply and type in 1, 2, and/ or 3 to let me know which consideration strikes a chord.)
Let's address the considerations:
- Is it a waste of time to regulate your nervous system by hanging at the barn?
However, call it what it is and mentally/ emotionally separate that personal time from your paid time at the barn.
Schedule personal time to enjoy the regulating effects of working with horses. For example with 10 minute breaks between sessions.
Have boundaries around working time and personal time and honor those lines in order to remain profitable. (No more hour sessions that bleed into 1.5 hour sessions because it feels good. Don't train your clients to take advantage of you.)
2. Is it a waste of time to operate without professional standards that would protect your time and energy?
On today's call, a MitM client struggled to draw a line with a student's parent.
At first her issue was broached as a time management problem. "How do I keep sessions under an hour when I am also managing the actions of the mother during a session?"
By the end of every session she felt spread then, frazzled, and taken advantage of… all because the mother simply didn't know how to conduct herself.
This was not about time management but rather managing essential professional standards that not only protect the coach's time and energy but also allow her to perform at her best… without distraction!
3. Lastly, is it a waste of time to be unclear about what REALLY contributes to your version of an enjoyable, balanced life?
- Another hell yes from me.
It's important to know yourself well enough to discern whether your goals are actually someone else's goals. This can be tricky because social conditioning tells us we SHOULD want what other people have.
The fancy boots, the weekends showing, the shiny truck, the perfectly bred horse… We should want that, right?
Maybe, and also maybe not.
Consider this your permission slip to question if you are chasing your dreams are making you miserable… pause and ask yourself, "is this what wants me?"
I know it's a strange way to ask the question but I do that on purpose.
We need to disrupt the pattern formed when we ask, "what do I want?" because often the response to that question is programmed, synthetic, and false.
What wants you is more about asking what is meant for you.
What wants you comes easily… pulled to you like a magnet.
What wants you is dropping signs and synchronicities.
What wants you is waiting for you to let go of what you don't really want and makes space for what is on it's way.
I hope that helps!
Also don't forget, next Monday, Mastery in the Making switches to a new call time:
Date: August 7th
The 60-minute zoom call will begin at 4 PM US Eastern Time
****THIS WEEK ONLY: There are 10 spots available to become a Master in the Making for 6 months at 50% off!
✊May your desire be greater than your obstacles,
Catherine Respess
Visionary & Founder of Red Mare
