A moment of weakness

It's our nature to push through and get by. It's survival 101.  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Moments of weakness…. Down days… darkness… damage… Sometimes it's hard to know when you are in the thick of it… when your imperfections and bad memories are surfacing and wanting attention but you have things to do. Who has time to deep dive into murky water? It's our nature to push through and get by. It's survival 101. ————— Some of you may know that I've piggybacked off the 75 HARD program and created an experience called 75 TENDER. The framework is designed to get transformative results without beating yourself up or going through a tortuous experience. I'm already hard on myself due to conditioning… no need to implement a structure that plays into that template. I'm more interested in fashioning a soft landing from the organic expansion that life offers. With 75 TENDER we create DESIRES (more tender than goals) and establish SACRIFICES (dropping behaviors we already wanted to change) and set INTENTIONS (guidelines to help) and we don't judge (waste of time and energy) when we fall short (not available to self berate anymore) during the 75 day experience. I'm engaged in a process where I gently seek to reveal more of my realness… by being very, very, very tender with myself. ————— The recent desire that I declared for 75 TENDER is to: "Linger with the unimaginable and I receive my heart's desires." I set the desire feeling all hunky dory… like the unimaginable would be… oh, i don't know maybe winning the lottery without buying a ticket. LOL. I never would have thought the unimaginable would mean A LACK OF DRIVE. WHAAAT?! Have you met me? Being listless is unimaginable for me. But a moment of weakness wanted to be with me. I sat in the void… in the darkness… I lingered in the unimaginable and I did not judge myself for it. This past weekend I was in bed sick with 2 sick kids, I felt my listlessness come to a head and then I snapped awake from it. My moment of weakness was ready to conclude. The organic cycle was complete. I realized that since the end of April I haven't been sleeping much and I've been a bit of a zombie during the day. I've read 50 books in 2 months and I'm not bragging. I love reading and I think it's a healthy habit, but I can see how I've retreated to my inner world with the help of fiction. I was immersed in what was not real. I've been feeling around in a dark room, trying to find the light switch. By acknowledging that I've been staying up reading all night long, I was able to: 1. notice the pattern 2. call it out for what it is = listlessness 3. give it some density so that I can face it and address it I found the light switch and now that I can see, I can recalibrate. I can get real. (Not in a snarky way) I have shifted significantly… Even my hair is parting on the opposite side! I'm relearning my heart's desires…. I'm learning how to be real as this new version of myself. One desire that is clear to me… I am meant to help others using my voice. That's always a through line in my life. It's my soul's purpose. I see myself speaking into the darkness. As a torch bearer.. Standing at the edge of a bridge…a symbol of transition. I came back to show you the way. If that sounds weird or difficult to understand, it's ok. I don't mind. You don't have to understand everything I say to KNOW that we should work together. Feel what your intuition says. If you still aren't sure, let's hop on a free call and talk it out. I want to leave you with a message today: ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE A MOMENT OF WEAKNESS. Find your place to let down your guard, give your darkness and damage density, and speak your desires. Holding back means holding on… and that's the only thing holding you back. ✊May your desire be greater than your obstacles, Catherine If you want to join 75 TENDER… this is the Facebook group for the free program: https://www.facebook.com/groups/75tender ​Unsubscribe | Update your profile | 4030 Wake Forest Rd; Suite 349, Raleigh, North Carolina 27609-0010

Your business craves life-giving CREATIVE energy

You can intuitively use your body as a map to unveil the potential of your business as if it were an ecosystem teeming with creative energy!  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Hi Blogger! Your business need systems and organization… AND your business also needs SOUL. Encouraging you to have a well-run business WITH SOUL might not be what you are hearing from other business consultants in this industry (or any industry!). And that's the kinda thing I'm talking about when I encourage you to explore your creative side… …I'm talking about being different from the status quo. If you are scratching your head, saying, "I want the success that I see other pros experiencing… I'd be happy with that status quo!" …stick with me a moment longer so I can show you the benefit of this creative perspective. Have you ever thought about your business as a unique energy signature separate from you? You may have heard me talk about personifying your business if it were a horse. I encourage you to give it a shot! If your business was a horse, What type of people would be drawn to your horse? How would your horse behave in challenging situations? What does your horse/ business ask of you? I wasn't familiar with this concept back in 2008 when I named my company Red Mare. But as I've gotten to know this business, she has revealed herself to be revolutionary, powerful, and honorable. Red Mare DEMANDS that I operate in a state of trust. I allow myself to be elevated and carried by her. We have a connection. I trust where she is taking me. Red Mare is my guide to personal growth through business. I create myself anew daily in devotion to my life's purpose. And Red Mare grows with me. By interacting with the energy of my business, I explore my gifts and I express myself as an intuitive leader. My business has so much soul and it contributes to my own sense of leading a meaningful life. I'm in love with it. And this is important because so many of the pros I serve have lost track of what makes their work meaningful. So many pros are not in love with the life they've slipped into. Have you gotten wrapped up in a daily grind or feel pushed to "industrialize" and "scale" your business to the point that it feels like someone else's business... someone else's relationship? --- So often I hear from new coaching clients, "I feel stuck." What they are really saying is "what used to work (or what works for others) isn't working for me and I don't know how to move forward." Enter creativity. Now, I'm a lifelong creative. Heck, my degree is in art and architecture and half my family are designers. I'm also an intuitive visionary… I see highest potentials and I envision the structures necessary to manifest desires. I don't expect you to understand the creative process in the way that I've lived it. But I do know you are familiar with the concept of FEEL. This is a language we share. As you know, FEEL is an intuitive guidance system that we use with horses. We learn to interact and communicate with horses using FEEL. And guess what… You can learn to cultivate a FEEL that will improve and grow your business. You can learn to creatively interact with your business (just as you do with horses!) to learn what unique expression wants to come through. You don't need to copy what other people are doing. You can tap into a force or a current that I call What Wants YOU, and only you. It's a FEEL that is magnetic, seductive, and pleasurable. Unexpected in the business realm, I know! But I'm full of surprises:) You can intuitively use your body as a map to unveil the potential of your business as if it were an ecosystem teeming with creative life-giving energy, opportunity, and abundance. You can operate in a creative state that allows you to fall in love with your life. I want that for you. I want to show you the framework that I've created to access what is available and waiting for you. It's called The Mothership. We are blasting off for our next 10-week exploration starting Tuesday, July 18th with a weekly call, a private podcast, and voxer support. By touching on themes related to body wisdom, intuition, presence, pleasure, wildness and expansion, you will be provided with tools to cultivate life-giving creativity in your business. Here's the link to chat with me about the experience - ​https://calendly.com/redmare/the-mothership​​ Come alive with me, Catherine ​Unsubscribe | Update your profile | 4030 Wake Forest Rd; Suite 349, Raleigh, North Carolina 27609-0010

You were once WILD, don't let them TAME you

Hi Blogger, I'm noticing a pattern. Horse pros come to Red Mare seeking guidance on structuring and growing their business in a NEW way that doesn't lead to burnout or bankruptcy... and offering this support is SO gratifying for me! Just today, I coached a student on her unique business blueprint (HOW she makes magic happen with horses) AND how she can roll out that program to her students in a semester subscription format so that: Students have access to her knowledge even when they can't ride Her aging lesson horses get plenty of down time She gets to spend LOTS of quality time with her family AND she has a steady flow of cash HOWEVER, there are cases when students struggle to find alignment and integrate all the insight we offer here at Red Mare. These students just can't seem to find: Time to work ON their business Energy to make tiny shifts that yield BIG results Motivation to show up for themselves in a powerful way I recognize this pattern because I was once stuck in it. From 2014 and 2018, I was running a business that I was no longer aligned with and it was killing me. I was in so much physical, emotional, and spiritual pain that I kept burning out over and over. I couldn't stay lit up about what I was doing, no matter what I tried. I worked hard everyday, my clients were happy, but I couldn't shake the discomfort, the nagging knowing that something needed to change. In my 25 years as a horse trainer, I saw it happen in horses too. With horses who had been tamed, in a not so gentle way, their spark needed tending to before we could begin training. Their energy was contracted and shut down in a way that forward progress seemed impossible. Key word here is SEEMED. With the horses, myself, and coaching clients, I am able to activate healing and rekindle the flame. And now, I offering that to you in a program called… THE MOTHERSHIP. We are blasting off for our next 10-week exploration starting Tuesday, July 18th with a weekly call, a private podcast, and voxer support. By touching on themes related to body wisdom, intuition, presence, pleasure, and wildness, you will be provided with what is needed. We set you free from distorted templates, outdated patterns of thinking, unhelpful comparisons, and distractions that hold you back. All that is fake and false will be revealed. We will unveil what warms your soul spark and makes you feel ALIVE. We will access a resource of energy that is your birthright. That's what any mothership does… it supplies what is needed. It's where you can go to be restored, regenerated, revitalized and real. Then in turn, you will be able to share your WILD fire of creative energy. You will be able to operate and grow your business from a state of joy without force or drama. So if your spark needs fuel, fresh air, and kindred spirits… hop on a call with me to see if THE MOTHERSHIP is a good fit for you. ​https://calendly.com/redmare/the-mothership​ You may feel TAME now, but your WILD is waiting for you. I'm here to hold the torch and show you the way. Catherine ​Unsubscribe | Update your profile | 4030 Wake Forest Rd; Suite 349, Raleigh, North Carolina 27609-0010

You are not in business to PROVE anything.

You also are not in business to play into your fears.  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

​ Hi Blogger, How do you deal with negativity? How do you find your way forward when people say hurtful things or you experienced a setback in your business? During our Mastery in the Making (aka office hours) call today, a student shared the pain she felt from an incredibly nasty commenter from years ago. For years, she had hundreds of people who read her blog and loved her stories, and because of that one person's cruel words, she stopped writing and sharing. One person's cruelty changed the trajectory of her business. (let that sink in) First, I took a moment to feel into the heartbreak she felt. I held her in compassion… then I got to WORK. Here's what I offered this master in the making: (Let me break it down as if it happened to you…) Someone who would dare to write you a cruel comment… is sick. Let's pretend that sickness is physical. (This analogy is gross but I think this will make sense!) The cruel commenter just vomited on you. It's DISGUSTING. Imagine the look on your face if that happened. You are appalled. You want to take a shower. When you wash away the sick, you KNOW IT HAS NOTHING TO DO with you. You don't take it personally. You aren't in the shower going, "wow, if ONE person is so ill she would vomit all over me like that… maybe other people secretly wish they could vomit on me?" NO!!! That vile spew isn't personal even if it was phrased to be personal. It doesn't make sense to lean into your fears over ONE person's bad manners. NO ONE gets access to you like that. You are not available for cruelty. An appropriate response would be "wow, that was an incredibly cruel message. Whatever happened to you that made you think you should speak to other people like this must have been awful and I hope you are able to heal from this pain that you are clearly experiencing." OR DON'T RESPOND at all and move on with your life as if that person said you have green hair. (This doesn't work if you have green hair! LOL) If you don't have green hair and someone starts commenting about how your hair is such an ugly awful, shade of green… An appropriate response is, "Um, what??!! I'm just going to ignore you." What people say about you, is none of your business. Even when people say good things about you, it's not your business. You aren't here to prove anything to anyone. YOU ARE NOT IN BUSINESS TO PROVE ANYTHING. Shocking I know! You also are not in business to play into your fears. Things will happen that you do not prefer. People will say things that you do not prefer. Your power lies in how you choose to respond. OPTION 1: Will you shrink back into the shadows, hide parts of yourself behind armor, carry this baggage until it breaks your back, and operate your business as if it's a defensive mechanism? OPTION 2: Will you integrate the lesson you can glean, drop the story of victimhood, and expand your capacity to not only handle non-preferable moments but to actually get better because of them?​ ​ I'm here for you, shining a light to help you find your version of option 2 if that is what you choose. Meet me here > https://redmare.thrivecart.com/mastery-in-the-making/​ - Catherine Respess P.S. If you want to be the kind of person who transforms negativity into fuel for your purpose, I want to hear from you! You are here to do GREAT things and if you are reading this, I know you are ready for MORE from what life is offering you. Let's chat about it > https://calendly.com/d/x5d-wzd-qqg/free-30-minute-biz-growth-session​ ​Unsubscribe | Update your profile | 4030 Wake Forest Rd; Suite 349, Raleigh, North Carolina 27609-0010